Did you know that about 75% of people will abandon their New Year’s resolution by February? Why is it so common for us to give up on our goals after such a short time-frame? In my experience working as a health coach for several years, I believe the reason this happens is because we lack the foundational attributes we need to succeed. Without them, a lot of us end up in this vicious cycle of setting goals and not being able to reach them.
How then can you ensure that the effort you’re putting forth at the beginning of the year will last longer than a month or two?
I’ve got just the thing you need to not only successfully reach your health goals, but to make them an integral part of your lifestyle. It’s all about being in the right mindset, remaining patient with your progress, showing yourself compassion when things get tough, being self-aware of your habits and behaviors and what drives them, and being consistent.
These five traits are my secret to working with my clients and helping them reach their health goals in a way that’s successful and sustainable.
Let’s dive into what each one means and then I’ll give you some handy tips so that you can learn how to practice employing them in your life to reach your health goals!
Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing without being overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us. Mindfulness is a quality that we all possess, it’s not something you have to conjure up, you just have to learn how to access it. This involves keeping a more positive and optimistic mindset – one that is open to change, challenges and growth.
Self-compassion is being kind and understanding towards yourself when personal failings arise. It’s about being able to show yourself sympathy instead of judging or criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings. When you don’t show yourself compassion during these moments, suffering can increase in the form of stress, frustration and self-criticism causing you to go deeper into a negative and harsh mindset. Regular self-compassion goes a long way in setting yourself up for forward movement instead of letting negative feelings pull you down.
Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives and desires. It’s knowing and understanding what influences your unique habits and behaviors. When you’re more self-aware, it can give you the power to influence outcomes and make better decisions by honing in on your strengths and weaknesses. When you understand your weaknesses, you can then navigate around them and amplify your strengths – moving you forward and seeing the results you want.
Consistency is the quality of always being the same even when things are different. It helps you develop routines, build momentum and form habits that become second nature. It involves lots of trial and error, practice, perseverance, determination, showing up for yourself and doing your best even when you might not want to.
“He that can have patience can have what he will.”Benjamin Franklin
Patience is the ability to endure difficult circumstances without getting angry, upset or annoyed. It means having perseverance in the face of delay or slow progression. The world is moving increasingly faster and it’s understandable you’re eager to reach your goals and live a healthier life. However, change takes time and more often than not, lasting change takes a while. That’s why it’s imperative to practice the habit of being patient when you find yourself becoming frustrated with your progress.
The road to success is a long one. Patience keeps you from quitting when things slow down or take longer than expected.
“Having a positive mindset is not just hoping that nothing ever goes wrong….it’s believing that we have the capacity to handle it if it does.”
Mindfulness is all about being in the right mindset. The quality of your mindset has the biggest impact on your overall health, wellbeing and your ability to change for the better.
When you’re more mindful and your mindset is more positive and uplifting, you can better manage challenges that come your way and make better decisions.
Overcome your mind and the rest will follow.
Ways to strengthen your mindset ↓↓↓
“Baby steps + self-compassion are the way to permanent change”
Reaching your goals or making sustainable, long-term change is going to be really tough if your inner voice is cruel and discouraging. Self-compassion is all about being kind and patient with yourself, like you would a close friend or loved one, instead of judging yourself harshly.
It’s knowing that you are not alone in your suffering – it’s part of the human experience that we all go through. When you’re able to turn understanding, acceptance and love inward during difficult times, you’re more likely to be happier, more motivated, and improve your mental health.
How you talk to yourself matters.
Here are some phrases to practice when you’re in need of self-compassion ↓↓↓
You can find more helpful information at: https://self-compassion.org/
This is all about observing your patterns of thought, emotions and behaviors. It’s being curious about your own mind – the stories you tell yourself, the way you react to things and what motivates or triggers you. When you have a heightened sense of self-awareness, you can think clearer, make better decisions, increase productivity, improve your mood and your relationships.
Tips to becoming more self-aware ↓↓↓
Consistency builds self-confidence.
It’s what you do most of the time that will have the greatest impact. Working out every now and then throughout the year is not going to give you the results you want. You have to show up for yourself on a consistent basis – over a long period of time – to see the results you want and to make your habits stick long-term.
Ways to become more consistent with your habits ↓↓↓
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Practicing and learning to become more patient is going to make a huge difference to your overall health and wellbeing. When you understand that positive change takes time you’re much more likely to reach your goals happily and successfully – without getting angry or upset.
When you have a good relationship with time, the pressure is lifted and you can do much more. There’s no need to be in a rush. If you truly want to reach these goals, you’re going to focus on enjoying the process and the time it takes you to get there will not be a concern for you. Patience allows you to avoid burnout and gain confidence in your ability to reach your goals. You’re more comfortable with allowing yourself room to experiment, play and try new things.
Learn how to lean into patience more ↓↓↓
How can you practice employing more mindfulness, patience, consistency, self-awareness, and compassion in your life? Write to me in the comments section and let me know. I’d love to hear what you have planned for yourself!
If you need a bit of guidance along the way, I’m always here for you.
Sign up for a FREE 30 minute coaching session with me HERE and we can discuss what options you have to successfully reach your health goals.